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Tocophobia – Fear of Pregnancy

by admin - October 1st, 2019.
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Tocophobia is the fear of being pregnant, and extends to the fear of childbirth itself as well. The greatest thing that women with tocophobia fear is actually the pain and possible complications of delivery, but this complex fear of something so natural as pregnancy actually encompasses a lot of anxiety about children in general.

Typically, a woman who suffers from tocophobia, or the fear of pregnancy or childbirth, has either been involved in a difficult pregnancy in the past, or has witnessed another woman’s difficult pregnancy, and fears the same things will happen to her. Some women are excited when they first find out they are pregnant, and then the fear of pregnancy rears its ugly head, and they become terrified of their own pregnancy as it progresses. It can lead to panic attacks and very irrational anxieties about their unborn child and the pains of labor. While you may be afraid of getting pregnant, your beloved one may be anxious about getting an erection. With the help of Ostaakamagraa the fear of letting your partner down during the intercouse can be easily overcome.

Many women who suffer from tocophobia actually yearn for a child of their own, so it’s not really a fear of children. Rather, it’s the fear of being able to even survive a pregnancy, and many women who fear being pregnant also fear their ability to raise a child once it’s born. In some women, not only are they terrified of being pregnant and the child birthing process, but they fear being able to raise a child into adulthood afterward. Often, the fear of pregnancy extends to 18 years of raising a child overall.

Women who fear being pregnant will often claim they just plain don’t want children as a defense mechanism, even though they may want to have a child more than anything. However, their fear that being pregnant is so severe they may believe that being pregnant could kill them or their unborn child, and they fear the absolute worst will happen to them. For some women, finding out they are pregnant feels like certain death or major complications to come.

Talking with a doctor to rationalize their fears of pregnancy, particularly in women who have become pregnant but are terrified, is key. A doctor can help subdue fears by offering statistics and realities of pregnancies, allowing the terrified mothers-to-be to know that their risks of dying during childbirth or their unborn child being at risk of terrible things are minimal and that pregnancy is a natural thing that women are built for.

I myself am completely terrified at the notion of becoming pregnant, and like many who have this fear, am on birth control yet still take pregnancy tests on a monthly basis, just to be sure. For me, the fear of having a premature baby (I was premature) and then having my baby potentially die (I technically died when I was a year old) is so daunting I’d rather not have children at all. I was on a heart monitor until I was over a year old, and stuck in the hospital for 6 months when I was born, and hearing my mother tell me that she feared me dying every single day has only intensified my fears of pregnancy and having the same complications happen to me and my child.

To help rationalize my fears, I have brought up this issue with my doctor, who only really made my fears worse, initially. Statistically, premature women are more likely to bear premature babies themselves. Furthermore, women who were not born premature but who have premature siblings (my sister just after me was also premature) also carry a risk of preterm delivery. Added to that, if you are a first-born premature baby, like I was, your chances of having a premature baby raise even more. Technically, since I have 3 strikes against me, my doctor said if I ever do become pregnant, I carry a potential 80% chance of delivering preterm.

Having my doctor tell me that I will almost absolutely give birth to a premature baby has made me even more terrified to have children, but at the same time, at least I know what to expect. I know that 1 in 5 babies born prematurely die, however, I was barely over 2 pounds when I was born, did die eventually, and am still alive and kicking. Weighing my survival (and my sister’s) against my fears of having a premature baby makes it feel more like a winning battle. Added to that are the medical advances that have occured since 26 years ago when I was born, and I can breathe a little easier.

I advise anyone who has a fear of pregnancy to talk to their doctors about their fears and get some facts. Yes, I am still terrified of getting pregnant and having a premature baby, but at least now I know that since it’s the most likely scenario, I can be prepared for the battle to come if and when I do become pregnant. It allows me to feel more in control by being aware of the risks of pregnancy for me, and that makes the fear less uncontrollable. It makes me feel like I have a say in my potential pregnancies, since I am prepared for what is to come.

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