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Tocophobia – Fear of Pregnancy

by admin - October 1st, 2019

Tocophobia is the fear of being pregnant, and extends to the fear of childbirth itself as well. The greatest thing that women with tocophobia fear is actually the pain and possible complications of delivery, but this complex fear of something so natural as pregnancy actually encompasses a lot of anxiety about children in general.

Typically, a woman who suffers from tocophobia, or the fear of pregnancy or childbirth, has either been involved in a difficult pregnancy in the past, or has witnessed another woman’s difficult pregnancy, and fears the same things will happen to her. Some women are excited when they first find out they are pregnant, and then the fear of pregnancy rears its ugly head, and they become terrified of their own pregnancy as it progresses. It can lead to panic attacks and very irrational anxieties about their unborn child and the pains of labor. While you may be afraid of getting pregnant, your beloved one may be anxious about getting an erection. With the help of Ostaakamagraa the fear of letting your partner down during the intercouse can be easily overcome.

Many women who suffer from tocophobia actually yearn for a child of their own, so it’s not really a fear of children. Rather, it’s the fear of being able to even survive a pregnancy, and many women who fear being pregnant also fear their ability to raise a child once it’s born. In some women, not only are they terrified of being pregnant and the child birthing process, but they fear being able to raise a child into adulthood afterward. Often, the fear of pregnancy extends to 18 years of raising a child overall.

Women who fear being pregnant will often claim they just plain don’t want children as a defense mechanism, even though they may want to have a child more than anything. However, their fear that being pregnant is so severe they may believe that being pregnant could kill them or their unborn child, and they fear the absolute worst will happen to them. For some women, finding out they are pregnant feels like certain death or major complications to come.

Talking with a doctor to rationalize their fears of pregnancy, particularly in women who have become pregnant but are terrified, is key. A doctor can help subdue fears by offering statistics and realities of pregnancies, allowing the terrified mothers-to-be to know that their risks of dying during childbirth or their unborn child being at risk of terrible things are minimal and that pregnancy is a natural thing that women are built for.

I myself am completely terrified at the notion of becoming pregnant, and like many who have this fear, am on birth control yet still take pregnancy tests on a monthly basis, just to be sure. For me, the fear of having a premature baby (I was premature) and then having my baby potentially die (I technically died when I was a year old) is so daunting I’d rather not have children at all. I was on a heart monitor until I was over a year old, and stuck in the hospital for 6 months when I was born, and hearing my mother tell me that she feared me dying every single day has only intensified my fears of pregnancy and having the same complications happen to me and my child.

To help rationalize my fears, I have brought up this issue with my doctor, who only really made my fears worse, initially. Statistically, premature women are more likely to bear premature babies themselves. Furthermore, women who were not born premature but who have premature siblings (my sister just after me was also premature) also carry a risk of preterm delivery. Added to that, if you are a first-born premature baby, like I was, your chances of having a premature baby raise even more. Technically, since I have 3 strikes against me, my doctor said if I ever do become pregnant, I carry a potential 80% chance of delivering preterm.

Having my doctor tell me that I will almost absolutely give birth to a premature baby has made me even more terrified to have children, but at the same time, at least I know what to expect. I know that 1 in 5 babies born prematurely die, however, I was barely over 2 pounds when I was born, did die eventually, and am still alive and kicking. Weighing my survival (and my sister’s) against my fears of having a premature baby makes it feel more like a winning battle. Added to that are the medical advances that have occured since 26 years ago when I was born, and I can breathe a little easier.

I advise anyone who has a fear of pregnancy to talk to their doctors about their fears and get some facts. Yes, I am still terrified of getting pregnant and having a premature baby, but at least now I know that since it’s the most likely scenario, I can be prepared for the battle to come if and when I do become pregnant. It allows me to feel more in control by being aware of the risks of pregnancy for me, and that makes the fear less uncontrollable. It makes me feel like I have a say in my potential pregnancies, since I am prepared for what is to come.

The Reasons Behind Drug and Alcohol Abuse in Young People

by kelebek - February 13th, 2009

AlcoholismDestructive effects of drug and alcohol abuse are well known, but still the problem of drinking and using drugs by American teenagers and youth remains topical in our modern society. The reasons why young people go on destroying their lives include their desire to feel grown up, to fit into their social environment, to improve own self-esteem or to get rid of some emotional problems, as well as natural enjoyment as a result of narcotic effects, etc. The consequences of alcohol and drug abuse may vary from psychological problems, inability to succeed in life, problems with building relationships and finding a job, a light dependence and predisposition to consumption of such substances, to more dangerous outcomes, like heavy dependence, aggression and violence, suicidal behavior or death.

It is possible to name several most influential reasons why drug and alcohol abuse remains so common among modern youth. In my opinion, the most considerable contribution to this should be attributed to purposeful direct promotion of alcoholism and drug consumption in our mass media, especially in cinema and TV. For example, there are many popular TV series, like Mad Men, in which smoking and alcohol abuse (as well as sexual harassment and racial discrimination) at the workplace are highlighted. Moreover, drinking is indirectly promoted even in such “family-oriented” comedy TV series like Two and a Half Men, Desperate Housewives or Scrubs.

Keanu Reeves

There are quite a few cinema movies, where alcohol or drug consumption does not take place or plays no important role in the plot. A great number of Hollywood movies visualize alcohol or drug abuse without direct condemnation of this terrible habit. Moreover, such movies as animated film A Scanner Darkly featuring Keanu Reeves or the movie The Basketball Diaries starring Leonardo Di Caprio picture daily routine of drug users and the way their addiction replaces more important things in their life. Alcoholism is also presented in many Hollywood movies, and due to such “tolerance” to drinking in our mass media, a common idea about modern superhero can be put to picturing a middle-aged man with a gun in one hand and a bottle of whisky in the other.


One more important reason is public behavior of the majority of American music or cinema stars and idols, who are repeatedly reported to be caught drunk or being under effect of some substances. In particular, an idol of many teenage girls Britney Spears is, probably, one of the most successful “promoters” of alcohol and drug abuse. In January 2008 she was reported to be taken to a hospital being under effect of some drugs. A young and talented American actress Lindsay Lohan was several times arrested and charged for driving under effect of alcohol. In 2008, another famous actor, a star of popular TV series 24 Kiefer Sutherland was sentenced to spending more than a month in jail for drunk driving. In this context, it is possible to talk about a great number of celebrities, such as Amy Winehouse, Whitney Huston, Mick Jagger, Kate Moss, Robin Williams, Paris Hilton and many others.

Family Alcoholism

Finally, one more significant reason which triggers improper behavior of youth and increases drugs or alcohol consumption is dealing with drinking parents. In the majority of the situations, alcoholism in the family results in such negative social effects, as constant quarreling and misunderstandings between the parents, divorce or a serious disease of a family member. Needless to say that it affects children and teenagers, who sooner or later try to forget their problems and stresses with the help of drugs or alcohol. In conclusion, it is necessary to mention that in order to lower the amount of drinking and drug abuse among our modern youth and teenagers, it would be very effective to decrease the exposure of American young people to any examples of alcohol and drugs consumption, both in mass media and in real life

Difficulties of Ageing

by kelebek - February 6th, 2009


The concept of aging is connected with any changes that happen to human beings over time, including physiological, psychological and other ones. Those are the changes of body size, mental abilities and social skills, behavior and self-perception, as well as changes in sensations, responses and reactions, and many others. Aging is a normal part of biological cycle of any living creature, and every one of us without exceptions has to go through it.

Aging as a social problem usually means the difficulties which people have to face when they are getting older. It is known that when children and teenagers turn into adults, the effects of aging are mostly positive: individuals become physically and mentally stronger, wiser and more experienced, more socially advanced and independent, etc. However, in the late adulthood the effects of aging are mostly negative, including increasing physical weakness, mental and psychological problems, frequent problems with health, and so on. Here is an illustrative example of what aging is all about.

Almost every child can observe how his grandparents are getting older. From our early childhood, we usually remember our grandparents as quite active and optimistic people, who were doing  housework, working in the garden, going to fishing, playing outdoor games with us and enjoying this life. Later on, they became less active and happy. All aging people develop some serious health problems and have many chronic diseases. They can not keep things in mind and very often they go into memories about good old times when they were young. They mostly stay in bed and prefer not to go out of the house, especially in cold weather. They always feel cold. They sleep every afternoon on the sofa in front of the TV. Those are the most common effects of the old age.

Old Man

Certainly, aging is a very hard period in the life of any person. When someone is growing older and loses usual abilities, develops a lot of diseases and has a lot of special needs, he or she starts feeling dependent and useless in this world. Besides, thinking about the coming death and leaving this world seems really very scary for many people. That is why aging people need a lot of attention and understanding from every one of us.

In order to provide aging Americans with proper health care and support, our government organizes a number of social programs and offers grants. This helps to make life of aging people better and gives them opportunity to enjoy new experiences. Josefina G. Carbonell from the U.S. Administration on Aging describes the main mission of her organization as “..encouraging Americans of all ages to live healthier lives”. Such programs are very effective and, according to the survey The State of Aging and Health in America, American people now live longer than just several years ago. It is very important to do everything possible to help old people feel loved and needed, feel our respect for their life experience and wisdom, feel our gratitude for everything they have done for making out world better. In such case the aging could be compared to the sunset, which is usually as beautiful as the sunrise.